the d word

i am aware that i get a variety of lovely viewers on my blog.
each have their own opinion, perspective, and religion.

i am unobservant of divorce in other religions.
however, i know that my particular religion discourages it.

i have a friend who is going through a divorce.
i also have a friend that has seriously contemplated divorce.
and i want to stand up for them.
i want to say that i am not 100% against most members are.

i believe that: 

there are reasons for divorce.
just like there are reasons for other controversial topics.

if the marriage just 'isn't' working,
you fell out of love,
you don't get along anymore,
you are annoyed of each other,
i believe that there is always a way back to love again {in that situation}. 

per contra,
there are some things you just. can't. fix. 

my gorgeous courageous friend that is getting divorced is so skeptical.
she always questions..
"what are people going to think of me? 
everyone in church is going to look down on me."

now she is doing it for herself. which she should.

divorce is one sad tough topic.
it is also a topic for you to not judge upon in any circumstance.


  1. It is such a hard topic. I completely agree with you. My older brother went through a divorce at age 25 and it has been really hard. I definitely agree with you that no one should judge because you just never know what things are like behind closed doors..

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  2. This is such a difficult topic. My parents got divorced when I was five and honestly divorce does life long damage to children. However, I can't imagine my parents being together, mainly because my mom's a Christian and my dad is not. My desire would be that all marriages could stay together but I'm not going to turn my back on people who get a divorce.
    Thanks for posting!

  3. I totally agree with this post! I grew up in a religion that also discouraged divorce, but everyone is on their own path and has trials they have to deal with, our world is not perfect therefor neither are all marriages. People change and things wrong. Your friend is lucky to have a supportive friend like you! In religions sometimes it is hard to escape judgmental people. Luckily God understands & forgives! :) I totally just went on a random rant hahaha, but I know how it can be xo

  4. I completely agree. My parents got divorced when I was 13. And for me, it was an incredible blessing. Sometimes it really is the best thing you can do for yourself, your family, and your children/future children. Every situation is different. And every situation should, therefore, be treated differently. Wise words. Thank you so much for sharing!

  5. I totally agree, there is always a way to fall back into love however it really isn't for anyone else to decide but the couple, it is such a somber topic though! Your blog is great! Xx Elly

  6. As much as I want to believe that I would never, ever consider divorce as an option for my own marriage, I agree with you. I've also had friends and family go through divorce and my feeling is that until I've been in that situation myself, I can't judge anyone who is going through that. I know that people that do divorce experience a great deal of pain going through that and don't make the decision lightly.

    I agree with you, though. I pray that I keep God first in my marriage and continue to honor my marriage vows, even on the days when being married is really, really hard. :)

  7. I remember my mother struggling with this, and she had the best reason to get divorced, she just didn't want to(she still loved him). He had been, and was still was, cheating on her, and was unrepentant(still is) and was unwilling to try and work it out. But she fretted so hard about what other people would think of her. It's was so sad. It's really no ones business, and I wish people would just understand that.


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