i cannot ever come up with the words to
talk about violence.

but at the same time,
it feels like i have a million paragraphs to get out.

team ashley is a facebook page encouraging
victims of domestic violence to open up about their stories,
leave their attacker,
and raise awareness about domestic violence.

i was impressed by her story last year.
she fell victim to a very evil man.
a guy who threw her out of a moving car going 65 mph.
she survived and now lives to tell her story.

another girl who fell victim to the same guy lived to tell her story.
i am in awe at her courage.

i wanted to write & share what happened to me in high school.
i am actually terrified, scared, and completely shaky to type it out.
the sole reason is because i have only told my school counselor & bishop.
 not my mother, my best friend, or even my husband.

i feel like these encouraging girls are helping get stories out
in a positive manner to have current victims open up.
and i couldn't be more privileged to do my part and help a little.

in high school,
i dated a boy who was abusive to me.
 & physically.

for three months,
i was hit, touched, yelled at, and pushed.
i got out of the relationship quicker than most women do.
& i can whole heartedly say it was one of the best choices i have made.

i reached out around my school, community, and courts
trying to raise awareness that violence really is common.

1 in 4 women will experience violence in their lifetime.
most likely..someone reading this right now is currently experiencing violence.

i want to encourage anybody in a violent relationship
at home, school, work, anywhere,
to seek help.

This website is helpful.
it has a crisis hotline number that is very helpful.

you are not alone.


  1. Amazing post. I'm so sorry hear about what you went through and so glad you got out. It breaks my heart hearing these stories because the women who suffer are these strong amazing women that are so broken by the constant waves of abuse they feel powerless.

    I know because I felt powerless too. I'm grateful to have never been physically abused but an ex-boyfriend was emotionally and physically abusive and I stayed with him for years. I still remember the things he'd say to get me to the point were I felt trapped, that I could ever leave him. but I never talk about it. I guess I feel ashamed that I allowed myself to put up with being treated that way for so long and anyone who knows me now I think wouldn't believe it all. But more than anything I want more girls to know so they can know they aren't alone and to know the warning signs to get out before it's too late.

    Even though it took years, I thank God every day I got out and for the husband I have today, who is truly an answer to all the tear-filled prayers to my Father in Heaven in that dark period of my life. Thanks for sharing your story.

  2. I'm so sorry that you ever went through that honey! But so happy that you got out quickly!

  3. this is definitely a great act. i'm sorry that you had to get through that but you handled it and you stood up for yourself by getting out of it. you rock!

  4. Thanks so much for posting this. I think so few people realize just how common abusive relationships are and so many people don't realize when they are in one. People like you definitely give others the courage to stand up for themselves and get to a better place in their lives. Good for you for being strong and proactive. :)

  5. Wow, this is an amazing post. I am so sorry you went through that, but at the same time, it looks like that experience was turned for the better because you are providing your testimony as an encouragement for others! God really can turn all things for the better :)
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  6. That is wonderful that you wanted to share your story! I am so sorry that you had to go through that. People are so awful now a days!! I am sure that you have helped someone, just by sharing this on your cute blog!

  7. AnonymousJuly 15, 2012

    I was once a victim of domestic violence back in high school when I was 15/16. For 2 years I endured slaps, punches, kicks, spit on, pushed, choked... you name it. Then he would apologize, cry and beg to make love to me. He cheated on me with my best friends. He would dump me and date other girls and rub it in my face. If I dated someone else he would make me dump them. He tortured me. To the point I dropped out of high school and moved 5 hours away.

    Great post. I read both of their stories. And it sickens me. I would like to do a number on him...

  8. Thank you so much for sharing this, I'm not a victim myself, but I know and love many that have been and are. It only takes one person to make a difference, and even if you only can help or reach out and affect 1 person your courage was completely worth while. THank you!

  9. You inspire me in every way, shape and form.

    I truly just admire you from the bottom of my heart and am SO grateful to be friends with you.


  10. You are so very brave to share your story. Thank you!

  11. Thank you for sharing. What courage!

  12. Thank you for sharing your story. It's very important that we women stand up for ourselves.

  13. Aww thanks for sharing your story. So happy you got out safely and quickly! And you're right - sharing yours and other stories only helps empower other women to get out of dangerous situations. Ashlee and Katie's story are both so moving... I hope he goes to jail! Clearly, he needs extensive help if he's already done this to multiple women... there's no need for him to have the chance to do it to any more.


  14. Your story is so sad but yet so touching . Thank you for sharing it. I completely can relate to how you felt writing this. It takes courage that's for sure & I am so happy you have a loving husband who treats you well. It feels really great to have somebody who loves you for you.

  15. Amanda, you are incredible. I am so sorry you had to go through something like that. And I am so happy that you are with a man who LOVES you :)


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