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forgiveness pt. 81,234,291

part 81,234,291? i have probably wrote about forgiveness about 81,000 times, yes, roughly. it seems like i keep learning lessons about it..probably for a reason! i am so bitter and so angry against a couple of companies.

1. thompson management.
2. vivint.

first of all, we never received our deposit back from our very first apartment. we were so poor those first few months. we couldn't even buy our own groceries. newlywed issues, i know. however, they never gave it back. it was about $550. i was pretty bothered. and i did everything i could. but mr. schroeder kept telling me that i just needed to let it go. i would always say, "why? do you just let people take advantage of you like that?" he said no & explained further about how it's not worth it to let it ruin our lives for a little bit, and more and more. so i let it go...kinda. it still bothered me. i wanted to ruin our landlords life. because he was so misleading, so dishonest, and practically stole from us.

as far as vivint goes, i wont go into much detail. we went to virginia beach shortly after we got married. they paid us $100/week. $100 a week? when we still had to pay rent & utilities? yeah, it just wasn't working. after trevor asked his manager what was going on, he said, "just wait until you get the backend check in october. you will think this was all worth it. it'll blow your mind." we suffered while we were out there. no groceries, no food, no gas to go anywhere, just the beach and the pool. {i can't complain about the beach.} what broke my heart the most was trevor feeling so incredibly inadequate as a husband. nothing was his fault whatsoever. we were in a bad area, and he was working with some dishonest people. anyways, we moved back to utah. october came. & guess how much are backend was? $300. they still, to this day, owe us thousands of dollars. do they care? no. we called the manager and the regional daily for months and months. i emailed countless people and they just. don't. care. not to mention the sales reps were taught to lie to people while they were selling. the whole company is completely dishonest. i have zero respect for them. 

 i was feeling pretty mad yesterday toward vivint. after expressing every single anger & discouragement feeling i had inside of me to my mother, she talked to me & changed my whole perspective. in short, she was telling me how in the scriptures, it teaches that if someone owes you money, you must forgive & turn the other cheek. do you know how hard that is? from the one year we've been married, we've lost out on thousands and thousands of dollars. but you know, there is absolutely no point in grieving over it. and staying angry. my parents are business owners. they get screwed over all the time. but they have learned to just turn the other cheek.

at one point, i'm always wondering how you can just let someone take advantage of you. i feel as if that's not right, and that definitely shouldn't happen. i suppose i was just angry for awhile because we were ripped off so bad. what makes it even harder is that during those times, we couldn't even eat dinner because of them simply pocketing our money. they're dishonest. i used to cringe &cuss every time i saw the orange circle reading "VIVINT" on it. i'm fine now. if they want to be a dishonest company, then they can. 
i have forgiven. turn the other cheek. walk away. because all it's going to do is hurt me.


12 comments

  1. I used to work at vivint too...I don't miss those days. Except maybe the lunch, I kinda miss that

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  2. That would be so hard!! Holy cow!! I think I would have the hardest time forgiving in situations like that.

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  3. i've always been so curious about vivint! i've heard people rave but something about it just left me uneasy - so interesting to hear the other side of it! i KNEW it must be too good to be true! glad to hear you're being the bigger person though!

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  4. If I were in your situation, I think I would have the hardest time getting over that. We had kind of a poopy experience with Vivint too. Dustin moved down to Albuquerque the summer we were going to get married and lived with me and my family and did installs for Vivint. While we were on our honeymoon, the crew in Albuquerque just up and left for Colorado because they weren't getting enough business in Albuquerque. There was no possible way Dustin could go to Colorado to finish out the season because we were supposed to move into our apartment in Orem a week later. So since he didn't finish the season he didn't get paid half of what he was supposed to. Makes me so mad! They didn't even talk to him about what was going on. We just got a voicemail at the airport when we were flying home saying, "oh yeah, we moved the crew to Colorado--hope you can get up here in a few days." Bleh!

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  5. I have a problem with not letting this like this go either. Good for you for being the bigger person. They will get what is coming to them.

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  6. So wise..I've seen families fall apart because of hurt feelings and someone feeling wronged. It's on us to be happy. So many people think they deserve apologies and what not and waste time waiting for them. It's so wise to let it go and continue your life. To forgive (with or without apologies) and be happy :) love this.

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  7. WOW!! I cannot believe this! I am such a grudge holder and this would be the hardest thing for me. I am so impressed that you are able to look at it with such great perspective lady.

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  8. Just came across your blog! Great motivation quotes. It's true, I hold grudges easily and it can make life so much less complicated to forgive.

    xoxo
    Erin

    The Fashion Canvas
    www.thefashioncanvas.com

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  9. Ah I am sorry. That all is so hard to just forgive and forget, but the quote defiantly sums up why it will be worth it in the end. And also because you can know that you were the honest ones. I love your forgiveness posts! keep em coming :) hah

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  10. i completely agree with you about vivint. taylor sold for them the summer we got married in nebraska-same situation as you. tay was constantly stressed out about everything concerning selling and felt very inadequate because he wasn't providing enough for the both of us for the future (the previous summer he made about $30,000, the summer we were there we made significantly less. the worst part is definitely waiting for the back end. he worked hard that summer and we wanted to see more than just a third of it)! i was bored out of my mind and there was only one other wife there with me who had class three times a week. it was miserable.we were both pretty bitter about the whole situation for a long time, but we're kindof over it now. i've come to realize that it just wasn't for us-and we'll definitely never do it again. this is a perfect reminder about forgiveness-that quote at the bottom is awesome. miss ya girl!

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  11. I don't know how you do it, but seriously.... every single post I read is speaking to me. Thank you for being so honest with all the experiences in your life, you are a really great example to me in how you handle situations. Currently trying to learn forgiveness towards a person who was closer to me than most and took full advantage of me. It's hard, but the scriptures have been a great source of strength.

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  12. so you are basically cute and your blog looks adorable! like always:) but forgiveness is hard. i think one of the hardest things i have ever had to do was forgive myself of my past mistakes. you are always so inspiring amanda. thanks, youve done more than you know.

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