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my feelings vs mr schroeder's feelings

i feel as if the mood i am feeling is always quadrupled.
there is always more & more. 
for an example: 
if something tragic happens to a neighbor, friend, or even a stranger,
it's not that i am over-dramatic about the situation.
it's more that i am just so sad.
sad for them, sad for the family, sad for the situation.
at times, it consumes my whole thought process:
things i could do for them, putting their name on the prayer roll, and more.
sometimes, i think i care too much. 
i care about relationships too much.
i over-think everything.
& i care about everything...too much.
is that possible? is it a good thing? i really don't know.

if you take a look at mr. schroeder,
he is the most layed back, most chill, and most christ-like person you will meet.
he puts others first & he rarely gets what HE wants.
but the part that makes me think i'm super different is...
if you tell him something that happened of course it makes him sad for a bit.
but what happened doesn't necessarily consume his thoughts.

do i make any sense at all?
am i clear?
i suppose i will leave with a quote
it makes sense to me & it's the best way i can explain my current feelings.


18 comments

  1. I completely and totally relate, a few weeks ago our neighbour passed away all alone and I was devastated, I didn't even know him. But I had all the thoughts processing that you are talking about, and it reminded me of a part in my Patriarcal Blessing saying I am blessed with the gift of compassion. I googled it that night and got a better understanding of this blessing, and although it can be hard sometimes on me to feel so much for others, I certainly believe it is a blessing, it's how we connect, Xx

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  2. YES! I completely understand what you're saying! I get so upset all the time when I see people hurting, or in pain, or anything and it's all I can think about and I just feel it so much. And Sammy, he's so caring and such but it doesn't effect him as much, he can just move on while I can't stop htinking about it.

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  3. This reminds me of a Family Guy episode where Peter says to Brian, "I care TOO much Brian." Haha, anyway...

    I'm in the same boat as you. My thoughts/emotions consume me a lot of the time. I empathize and sympathize really hard, and I, too, care too much. It's really hard! I try to compartmentalize my thoughts and emotions and sift through what is really important to dwell on. Also, a good cry helps me get through it :). I don't think it's a bad thing to really care about others as much as you do. It gets bad and unhealthy when it is tearing you down and affecting how you function.

    Thank you for your thoughts--I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one that stews over things longer than someone should.

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  4. I think it's just a difference between the two genders, not to say that all men are that way or that all women are this way...i've noticed that i am the same way you are, and that in the past with relationships the men are exactly like your husband, we just process emotions differently.

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  5. I've had the same feelings before. Sometimes I wish I didn't care so much, but then I realize that I was made this way for a reason. :)

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  6. you and i are definitely the same in this sense. things that don't even affect me get me down really bad because i'm so concerned for what is happening with everyone involved in the situation...i'm sad that they have to deal with the pain and such.

    seriously, when i get a job...we're going on a girls date. cause i mean, i gotta have money to do that.

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  7. I totally understand you, and I am the same way unless it is something that Jake could relate to. I just love my family more than words can describe and if anything happens to anyone, I start thinking how I would feel if they were my family, and then if effects me more than it probably should!

    Your sooo not alone in this... ^^^ obviously! look at all of us women :) haha.

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  8. I'm the same way. I think it tends to be more of a female trait. Many times I'm grateful for my sensitivity because it drives me to serve others, but it can sometimes seem overwhelming. That's when I need to talk about it with my husband because he always seems to take me back to normal again.

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  9. I am just like you over thinking and over feeling. :)

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  10. we were just talking about this in institute yesterday...the differences between guys and girls. Almost daily i wish that I could just think about things more simply and not let them consume all my thoughts all the time. but then we touched on how it really makes us unique as women. It helps us feel empathy and many other things that guys have a harder time experiencing. my thoughts...embrace it!

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    1. Your advice was just what I needed to hear. Miss you, Meg! Love you long time.

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  11. Totally understand this! I had a friend that I haven't seen in years that passed away in January. I couldn't sleep for days because all I could think about was the pregnant wife that he left behind. Sometimes it is frustrating to feel so much, but I think it really is a blessing. I think feeling too much is better than the alternative of being indifferent and completely past feeling!

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    1. I completely agree. COMPLETELY. It could always be the other way around. That's for sure. Love you!

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  12. 1. I totally love your blog design- It's fabulous.
    2. I'm like you! I feel way too much all the time. My husband tells me that if I don't cry for a week that something is wrong! I think it's a blessing and a curse really that we feel things so deeply. Sometimes it's great.. other times.. you aren't wearing waterproof mascara.
    3. I'm your newest follower! holla!

    xoxoxo,
    Carmina Hughes

    www.cjoyhughes.blogspot.com

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  13. yup, totally get what your saying. i way over-think things too. :/

    i hope you're having a splendid day.

    xo
    purposelyathome.blogspot.com

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  14. I felt as if I was reading my very own journal there for a while!
    Feeling and caring too much is definitely something that is a blessing as well as an occasional curse but all we can do is OWN IT!(:

    xoxo
    Bailey @ mycrisscrossedblog.blogspot.com

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  15. that is seriously exactly how tay and i are! he's taught me that of course it's very good to be concerned about whatever happened, but that they are going through what they're going through because it's God's plan and it's in His hands. all we can do is offer support and help, ya know? but i totally feel ya-i'm a little different from you in the way of feeling sorry and overdramatic about things in my OWN life..not in someone else's, which i guess is a whole other discussion in and of itself haha anywho, hope you're doing so well!

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  16. I think that is the "woman nurturer" in us. I feel the same way. We had someone close to us cheat on his wife, and I couldn't sleep for days. It made me so sick, so sad for her and their kids. And anyhow, I am like that with all sorts of things too. We need to learn to not worry. We can care and not let it overtake us, but that is something I am far far way from doing yet.

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