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i have a lot of opinions circling in my head about self worth and loving yourself. i think it's because i learned the hard way. i've contemplated writing about my past a whole bunch because it helps me be grateful for where i am today & it also helps other people who are currently going through a rough patch. however, i write about it, then i delete it. because i'm over that phase in my life. there is something i can take & learn from, but i never want to dwell. ever ever. 

years ago, i went to a fireside where marie osmond spoke at. it helped me so much. she mentioned, "don't marry if you have low self esteem" that means more to me now than it did then. because i am married! in high school, my self esteem would never ever shake. i knew who i was. i knew who i wanted to become. and nobody could ever destroy that, or so i thought. i fell in love in high school. and it was a very long three years that sort of destroyed that self esteem i had. because i was never good enough. i had a fabulous relationship with my mother, i had friends that i adored, and i had a solid faith in the church. the three most important things to me had diminished after dating a controlling boy. who is to blame? not him. but me. it's really my own fault.

so i met mr. schroeder. and though i knew he was the one and the spirit was yelling at me, "THIS IS YOUR GUY..." i still had little self esteem. we married. and i couldn't have chosen any better human being to spend forever with. he has played a major part in helping my self esteem grow to what it never was before. i've definitely learned that you MUST love yourself FIRST before you can allow anyone else to love you with their whole heart. i know who i am. i know where i'm going.  and nobody will ever destroy that. i mean that this time. 


i believe many women struggle with insecurities and self worth problems. what woman doesn't? we all go through phases where we just don't like ourselves. but i challenge everyone to quit doing what the world wants you to do. become what you dream to become. & pray often. because you can't do it yourself. 


11 comments

  1. Amen to this! I love the quotes and the advice and yeah. You rock!

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  2. This post made me cry... I was in your same spot, dated an abusive boy for 4 years. It's crazy how they can ruin your lives all together, every aspect of you. I feel you girl! Way to be open, you are truly amazing!!
    Love you girl!!
    XOXO
    dani
    www.lovemedanimarie.com

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  3. I forget how I came across your blog, but I have to say I love, and agree with your view of things. I love what you said about self-worth. This has been something that I have been working on myself lately. Something that I have found that has helped me was to make a list of positive things in my life/about me. Anyway, thanks for sharing!

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  4. I love how open you are. You are amazing darling! :)

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  5. Love this. You're awesome!

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  6. You are amazing!!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear!!! I need to stop letting those extra 35 pounds control how I feel about myself because in the two years before I got married, I had gotten to the point where I loved who I was, I loved what I was doing and I felt great about my choices! And I'm slowly letting that extra weight that is understandable because I'm so busy, married, in school, and working and now I'm pre-diabetic. As long as I know I'm doing everything I can to be healthy and be the best me, that's all I need! :) I'm so glad to have you as a friend! Love you girl!!!

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  7. Love this. You are a little inspiration! xo

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  8. Thank you so much for sharing this, I've been trying to decide whether or not to buy a swimsuit. The answer is now definitely yes! :)

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  9. Omg get out of my head! I was complaining about this yesterday to Brandon. Had a complete breakdown. This month has been rough for me on that. I feel huge and I swear I am a dead ringer for quasi moto. When it hits it hits hard :/ it is such a process to love yourself

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  10. I can relate to this on so many levels! Most women probably can. But I adore you and I appreciate you posting this!

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  11. beautiful post. if i could go back and talk to my younger self (at any age) it would be "you're worth SO much more than you think!"

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