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the marriage box.

90% of my friends had no idea what marriage was going to be like. even i thought, "this is going to be so fun. sleepovers every night and constant time spent with my sweetie!" well, it's not super realistic. we both had to work still, go to school, and yes, we did get sleepovers. but sooo many people have this misconception. and it has been driving me insane for a few months now. 

i wish i could tell every engaged couple (and actually have them listen to me) that marriage is not unicorns and freaking rainbows. it's not. it's wonderful. it really is great -- i won't disagree with that. but it's not perfect. you WILL have your arguments, you WILL have your trials, and you WILL be tested. it's not what movies and media portray it as. i have this conversation with my mother ALL the time. marriage is work. when you serve your spouse and put work into it, pray together, become spiritually strong together, experience trials together & become stronger through them, THAT is when that misconception can come true. 

now, my marriage is not perfect. but it is 1,000 times better than when i first got married. cause it's full of lessons being learned. ohhh my good golly gee, i would NEVER trade each trial we have been through for anything. because right now, i feel like we're solid. nothing can tear us apart. and we will continue to serve each other & have our marriage become what we both deserve to have. read this lovely marriage box quote. my mama saw it on insta and decided to send it to me. because it is just perfect.


13 comments

  1. Yes yes yes! Going into marriage, I thought 'oh, this will be a piece of cake!' Boy, was I wrong! But it's still such a beautiful thing & I've learned so much as well. About love, about my husband, but surprisingly I've learned things about myself. Areas that needed to be worked on. Marriage is kind of like looking in the mirror & seeing the things you need to fix. I wouldn't trade any of it!

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  2. What a great post, and the best part is (and I'm sure you've heard) that as you continue serving and sacrificing that you draw closer, more in love and more solid. I also think that the closer you grow, the more time you are married, the more communication opens and the less fights you have, thus making marriage more like a fairy tale with rainbows, cause lots of days it sure feels like it. :)

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  3. Love you girl! This is so great!!! :)

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  4. This is a great quote! I love it!

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  5. As an engaged woman, I really appreciate all the advice I get. As we get closer and closer to our wedding I think I'm finally past the stage where I am imagining marriage as pure bliss. It's gonna be real work and it's gonna be hard!

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  6. i love the marriage box metaphor. and i love that you get down to the nitty gritty of marriage. i have a feeling your advice will come in handy in the near future ;) [if you know what i mean...] haha love ya amanda!

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  7. Beautiful words for an engaged girl to hear! Thanks!

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  8. I love this post. Not only do I believe it's true but I also wish that I could my friend this before she got married. Guess she will learn.

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  9. You know, before I got married, we had advice thrown at us from everywhere and honestly you really think that you ARE listening to it, but youre not and you wont until you have to experience it. You are absolutley right, it is something to be worked at, but if you really love the person,you enjoy the work ;)

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  10. I LOVE THIS! Thanks for sharing. And I totally agree. I have friends that are like you're so lucky your married you get to be with Jake all the time, and they act like its like a story book. And you know it is I wouldn't change one thing in our marriage, or anything that has happened in our marriage, because every fight, miscommunication, trial, tear, everything has made us stronger as a couple and made us so happy to be with one another. (yes, that was a run on sentence! :) ) but I super agree with you.

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  11. I believe that we all need to realize that not every relationship is gonna be great. It's not always rainbows and butterflies. It's compromise it moves us along. That's what a Maroon 5 song says. :D and I think that's true. You have to compromise in everything you do esp if you're sharing your time with someone else. They may wanna go to a base ball game or a hockey game and you may not be into sports but if you really like that person and you wanna spend time with them. You'll do that. and then maybe they'll be ok with going doing something girly with you. Rather it be gardening or just having coffee some where. I so need to take my own advice. I'm still freaking here. check your email.

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  12. Amen! Marriage is work. I love that quote a lo too. :)

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  13. I love this post! And that quote seems to be SO true. I'm not married, but I am in a long-term long distance relationship and I do agree that even with this type of relationship, you can't get anything great out of it without first putting something in, and it can be more work than expected at times!

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