90% of my friends had no idea what marriage was going to be like. even i thought, "this is going to be so fun. sleepovers every night and constant time spent with my sweetie!" well, it's not super realistic. we both had to work still, go to school, and yes, we did get sleepovers. but sooo many people have this misconception. and it has been driving me insane for a few months now.
i wish i could tell every engaged couple (and actually have them listen to me) that marriage is not unicorns and freaking rainbows. it's not. it's wonderful. it really is great -- i won't disagree with that. but it's not perfect. you WILL have your arguments, you WILL have your trials, and you WILL be tested. it's not what movies and media portray it as. i have this conversation with my mother ALL the time. marriage is work. when you serve your spouse and put work into it, pray together, become spiritually strong together, experience trials together & become stronger through them, THAT is when that misconception can come true.
now, my marriage is not perfect. but it is 1,000 times better than when i first got married. cause it's full of lessons being learned. ohhh my good golly gee, i would NEVER trade each trial we have been through for anything. because right now, i feel like we're solid. nothing can tear us apart. and we will continue to serve each other & have our marriage become what we both deserve to have. read this lovely marriage box quote. my mama saw it on insta and decided to send it to me. because it is just perfect.