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how to stay positive

kim giles wrote a fabulous article for ksl about how to keep a positive attitude when things are just going wrong. i felt like this article found me. though i'm pretty good at staying positive, i definitely have my days. like today. i keep feeling sorry for myself for something that in reality, is pretty little. life changing, but little compared to others problems.  there are 3 principles you must follow.



1. remember that you have the power to choose your attitude. 
you might not have control over the crazy events in your life but you can choose how you will experience them. there is a story of viktor frankl, who spent time in the nazi concentration camps. they took everything he had, but they couldn't take his power away to choose his attitude. even though he was in the worst situation, he chose love over fear. we also have the power to choose love over fear.

2. while choosing your attitude, you only have two choices: fear, or trust and love.
 every other state falls under one of those. in every moment of your life, you can consciously choose your mindset. conscious choices require individuals to wake up and become aware of what they are experiencing and how they are reacting to that experience.

3. choose to see life as a classroom. 
this will allow you to take your fear of failure off the table. think of this: "life is a classroom and my value isn't on the line." give yourself permission to be a work in progress and a person who doesn't have to be perfect. 

other things to remember to help you stay positive are: 
watch the words you use for accuracy. don't over exaggerate or over generalize.
don't compare yourself with other people. you are unique!
choose to believe that things happen for a reason.
don't take anything personally.
stop predicting the future & assuming the worst. be optimistic.
choose optimistic friends. spend time with positive people.
have more fun and laugh more.
focus on gratitude and count your blessings every day.
be the force for love in the room everywhere you go.

i'm going to be using some of these techniques. though i may be a generally positive person, i still have a lot to work on as do most. hopefully this helps more than one person. because i know it'll change my life. 

5 comments

  1. Even though it's not directly related, these tips reminded me of the book I'm reading now: The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. Rubin also writes a column for Good Housekeeping all about finding happiness in the daily bits of life (which is why I found her book in the first place). I guess what i'm trying to say is that from her book, I'm learning that a lot of our personal happiness comes from seeking it out consciously on a daily basis.

    Oh, and I love the idea of viewing life as a classroom--wise thought!

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  2. Thanks for posting this. Positivity is something I really need to work on.

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  3. Having a good attitude thru everything and being able to laugh at yourself is one of two things a person should be able to do.

    p.s. Thought of you last nite during the CMT awards when Taylor performed. Did you watch it?

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  4. Oh you. How did you know I needed to read this? Sometimes I let myself get so discouraged about little things. I think I need to think more about how I choose to describe things to myself. I almost always exaggerate my situation and make it sound worse than it is. Silly me.

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  5. Don't take anything personally. Such an important one. Holy crap lately I feel like everyone is out to get me. When I try to not take things so personally life is so much more enjoyable. Loved this post :)

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