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i need help

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so 90% of the time, i feel like i'm pretty great at letting things go. if i have some sort of argument with someone, or if someone pisses me off, i tend to get over it very very quickly. i'm also super quick to forgive. but there's a couple of things that tend to really get me and make it hard for me to just let it go. let me explain..

mr. schroeder is an extremely laid back kind of guy. he lets things go with the snap of two fingers. even if it's sort of a big deal. i look up to him a lot. but i often wonder...where do we draw the line? 

i look at my parents a lot in this type of situation. they own a business. and people steal from them and take advantage of them all the time. it's just a part of life. and i feel like if you ask yourself the "what would jesus do" question, it always leads to just letting it go. but i also wonder, "would He let people take advantage of him over and over again?" 

i am quick to forgive. and i am quick to get over things. but when people either
1. hurt me so much that i am emotionally scarred
2. take advantage over & over & over
3. steal money. a lot of money. not just pocket change.

it's really really hard for me to just let it go.
what do you think?

i don't want to live my life allowing people to take advantage of me all the time. but at the same time, i don't want to have to have a problem trusting every single person & company that walks into our lives.
where do i draw the line? 




6 comments

  1. Ugh! I typed up all this stuff and it friggin disappeared! NOT COOL MAN!

    I said something like "there are things you let go and things you hold onto and lash out over"... or something like that. I CAN'T REMEMBER! LOL

    Love you! My twitter (srslynat) is not private and I added ya ;)

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  2. I have a big problem with letting things go. I say I forgive, but it's always in the back of my mind, making it impossible to forget. My elder woman in my church that I look to for advice told me that I am to forgive, but I do not have to trust that they wont do it again. She said as I earn someones trust back I will learn how to let what hurt me go. I hope that helps just a little. It's extremely hard to let things go and yes we are to be in His imagine, just remember we fall short and He is there to pick us up and show us the way. Proverbs 3: 5-6

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  3. I have a hard time with that. I can always forgive but it's hard to forget.

    If you want trust you got to earn someone's respect and earn someone's trust and once it's broken you cant ever get it back

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  4. think about how jesus acted when those people were disrespecting the temple...he did not just let THAT go. however, he instantly forgave the people who crucified him. i have often the same problem figuring out where to draw the line. i think it important to always confront the person about the problem. and only the person directly involved. like if someone stole money from you, talk to them and figure it out and let them know it is not okay. you can do that without being rude and unkind. it is important to forgive and not let those negative feelings reside, but also be confrontational when people try to walk all over you. trust me, this is something i need to work on too.

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  5. I can forgive people but I have a hard time holding a grudge. Maybe that means I have a hard time forgiving them. I think as a woman it is hard to just let things go Nd forget about it. This is something I really need to work on and with the help of The Lord

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  6. I feel like out of your 3 things, number 3 should be the easiest if we just remember it's material things that were taken. If there's nothing more you can do about it, it will be best to just let that go. But number one is easier said than done. "1. hurt me so much that i am emotionally scarred". When we have been traumatized, we can't JUST let it go like that. We are a victim and have been scarred. I like the quote that says "it has been said that time heals all wounds. I do not agree. the wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting it's sanity, covers them with scar tissue, and the pain lessens, but is never gone" (rose kennedy)

    I think that's what happens...that time helps the scar tissue form over our wound, which helps us to eventually "let it go" in some way, but then we will always remember our pain. Hopefully it just won't hurt as much as time goes on. But we have to be patient with ourselves. No one expects that to happen right away, and if they do, they haven't been through a trauma and can't understand.

    I go to church every week with the woman who used to be my friend, but had an affair with my husband. Church is hard. I don't ever want to see her again. I can't "let it go" and make it seem like what happened was ok. I have been told to give myself time...by counselors...it could take several years. And to see her again again every week just makes the healing time slower. :(

    Good luck to you. I don't think you should be expected to trust every person that comes into your life. Focus on family and devote most of your time and efforts to them and you will find happiness. You can smile and say hello to others, but you don't have to let every person completely into your life.

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