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He doesn't care. I don't want to care either.


There's something about Mr. Schroeder that makes me smile a lot. His forgiving ways & especially the way he doesn't care about the little things. Let me give you a few examples. 

When we were dating, I had the amount of girlfriends I could count on one hand, and the rest were guy friends. It bothered every guy I ever dated....which I can completely understand. When I met Trevor, he didn't give a flying rats butt. He didn't mind at all. When I asked him why, he said, "Whatever happens is meant to. If you have a thing for one of those guys, and end up with him, then clearly it's not meant to happen with us." 

His car broke down. And it was an expensive fix. A super super expensive fix...I mean, it was a fix that was almost as expensive as his truck alone. Anyways, he acted as if he didn't care much. It bummed him out a little bit, but when he told me, I felt like it was the end of our financial lives! Oh no! This was going to drain our whole savings account! This is going to ruin everything. Ha. No. That is not how it turned out. Mr. Schroeder looked at it as this: "Well, we can still afford our home, our food, and the necessary items it takes to live a happy life. Why should we be down about this?" Yes yes yes. I have GOT to adapt that outlook. I have to. 

I shouldn't say that Mr. Schroeder doesn't care. Because he cares about most things. As goes for the little things,  why let them stress you out and carry you further away from that person you want to be? My post yesterday got me thinking about this the most. Because when people are trying the hardest they possibly can to bring you down, why should I freakin care? My husband knows who I am. That's all that matters. A random nobody on the internet hates me? Well, okay. Why should I care whatsoever? 

I guess what brings me to this conclusion is "How did Mr. Schroeder even get this way?" I remember a post I made about a year ago on being confused if Mr. Schroeder was bothered at all about being friends with a boy. One of his ex-girlfriends commented saying, "knowing trevor...." and then went off about what I should do. BUT..little does she know...the Trevor I met & know and love...is NOT like that. At all. When I asked him about not caring and how he just lets everything go, he responded with this....

"I guess it just happened when Hailey was waiting for me on my mission. I wrote her off but then kept thinking if I was going to end up with her or not. Then one day, I decided that I'm not going to care. Whatever happens is meant to be. If she's with another guy, I will not get jealous. Because I'll find someone better for me. If I end up with her, great."

He is amazing. As I've mentioned lots and lots before, since I am a writer, I tend to write things down that I'm struggling with or getting bothered with, and then make a vow to myself. It has worked every single time. And as of now, I'm not letting stupid things get to me. If I have a medical bill I'm paying off until I'm dead, who cares, I'm still alive and with the one I love! I think life is a lot easier that way. Who wants to be caught up in the little things anyways? 


3 comments

  1. I have recently tried to adapt this into my life too, but sometimes, I really don't understand how Jake can just brush some things off when all I want to do is blow up and scream! Thank goodness for good men, right!?

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  2. I randomly came upon your blog and this is exactly what I needed to hear :) I just got done saying my husband doesn't care about anything becaause he is exactly like this. When in reality he cares about what's important and when it's not he let's it go. Thanks for letting me see how to enjoy life a little more :)

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