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We and Serendipity: Making Mistakes
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I've had this topic on my mind a LOT lately. It seems as if the culture in Utah is different than anywhere else. In fact, I know it is. When we lived in Virginia Beach, if I were to get up in the congregation & mention a mistake I had made, people would have either agreed or not even cared whatsoever. Fast forward to living in Utah, and there are a lot of judgmental people. I'm not correlating this to Mormonism, simply because I don't think that's what causes judgment. Obviously, we are taught to not judge and to leave that up to the big man upstairs. On the other hand, I think the reason I've thought about mistakes so much lately is simply because I live in Utah. 

Growing up, I punished myself pretty harshly for making mistakes. If I got in trouble with some friends, if I made a mistake and had to go talk to my bishop, I was so hard on myself. I thought I was the only person in the world who struggled with this & I thought my life was over every single time I did something that was against my standards. Today, right now, I'm going to try & put a halt to that way of thinking in my life.

We and Serendipity: Making Mistakes

In my religion, we believe that after we make mistakes, we can repent to our father in Heaven by asking him in prayer. I think I have neglected that gift drastically. After having a good long talk with Him, I realized that some people just aren't worth my time. For an example: If someone were to find out something I struggle with, they would automatically hate me. But I can GUARANTEE this person has made the same mistake or worse in their lifetime. So why judge? Why completely get rid of that friendship because someone made a mistake? Whatever happened to mercy or forgiveness or unfailing Christlike love? Because sometimes, I truly feel like that doesn't exist upon my fellow peers anymore. 

Right now, I am going to embrace my mistakes. I am going to learn from them. I am going to allow them to help me grow into the person I want to be. I am going to strive to not repeat them. And I'm also not going to kick myself and tell myself demeaning things that may destroy my self-worth and self-confidence. After making this a strength of mine, I know I'm going to be a much happier person...if that's even possible.

We and Serendipity: Making Mistakes
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10 comments

  1. I loved this post! I loved the quotes that you put as well, so inspiring. I think that totally sucks that you can't share those mistakes and get a good response. I had a friend growing up, bishops daughter, I thought she was perfect anyway, and I told her a mistake I was really ashamed of and she was the COOLEST about it, which really changed my perspective on people. At the same time people I've thought were going to be understanding were judgemental. Crazy crazy. I hope you find some true friends out there who will be more understanding. But if you don't, you can come move to CO and we can be best friends and go do fun stuff! K, K : )

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  2. When I went through the temple and met with the temple matron, she said "Do you know what faithful means?" She let me take a minute to think and then she said "Faithful means never giving up." I LOVED that so much. It doesn't mean we don't make mistakes. Without mistakes we wouldn't need the Savior or the Atonement. But being faithful means we get back up and try again!! :) Love you girl

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  3. I loved this! This has been on my mind a lot recently as well. I have loved ones who are very dear to me who have struggled with addiction during their lives and through being there to support them I have really seen how much love God has for these individuals despite their mistakes and shortcomings and I have been able to see their mistakes in a different light--namely that because they have made these mistakes and repented of them they have a deeper understanding of the Atonement than most people will ever gain. Mistakes aren't meant to be ugly, horrible things. In fact, if we let them they can be really beautiful opportunities that lead us closer to Christ. Love you girl. You always give me lots to think about. :)

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  4. I LOVE that Shaw quote. Love you girl! Mistakes are what make life interesting ;)

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  5. I love this. I grew up in a small town, where everyone knows everything you do. So your mistakes become the new gossip. I love going back to visit some of my friends, but I have had to get rid of some of my so called "friends" because you do one thing wrong, and you're the worst person in the world. I love the quote because mistakes really truly do mean that you are trying. What other way is there to learn? that's why Heavenly Father has it in place that we can repent, because he knew we would fall. People who are judging you aren't worth your time anyways. They only drag you down!

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  6. What a truly wonderful inspiring post,thats what life is, learning and making mistakes, you will never learn if you don't make mistakes. i also am a firm beliver that everything happens for a reason, sometimes only God knows the answers :)

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  7. Agreed. I grew up in California and it is SOOO different from Utah. I believe our mistakes and trials make us who we are. I made a lot of mistakes back in high school and I have learned and grown so much from them. Great post Amanda!

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  8. I could just hug you! So beautifully said.

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  9. You are so amazing. I think some of the hardest part of making mistakes is forgiving ourselves. I have such a hard time with that. Also, we put such high expectations on ourselves and others. Some times we just need to love instead of demand that those expectations are right. People here will get it eventually, I'm sure. Thanks for sharing hun.

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  10. I feel you about peers not quite living up to that expectation of Christlike love. But people are broken. Forgive, forgive, forgive, right?

    LOVE YOU. You're amazing. Mistakes are mistakes and no one can judge you for them except for God (including yourself, so give yourself a break!)

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