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I think I’m still learning the lesson of: Love them anyway. But I want this weakness to become a strength of mine, and I am going to work on it. It seems like there are always people in everyone’s life who suck the happiness out of them. I have a friend like this. In all honesty, I don’t think she means to do that. On the other hand, she is so extremely negative. If anything goes wrong, even if it is not a huge deal, her whole life is crashing down on her.  It is so hard to be loving and 110% happy when all this person does is complain about her life every time I see her.

This post is NOT to bash on my friend..especially because she is my friend. But some people are just really difficult to be friends with. I don’t want to be the kind of friend that is always calling to ask someone if they want to hang out. I don’t want to be the friend that is butt-kissing constantly just to make this person happy. But you know what? I need to be that friend. Because that is probably the friend that some people just need.
I read a post written by the lovely Suzzie Vehrs. She was in a similar situation with a friendship she was reevaluating. And my answer to her, and even myself, is to love them anyway. That might be one of my biggest regrets from high school. I had a best friend who I suddenly didn't want to be friends with anymore because she got into drugs and other things I didn't agree with. Instead, I should have loved her through it. And been her friend simply because that is the Christ-like thing to do. I am going to love everyone through it. I am going to be that friend that will stick by someone's side no matter what. If I disagree with how someone is living and I am scared they will have a negative impact on me, I will continue to be an example and love them anyway. 

5 comments

  1. I had a friend like this. We had been friends for 12 years. best friends. And when ever I was around her were always gossiping. But not good things. we were always talking about who broke up, who got pregnant out of wedlock, who was sad, who was mad, why we were sad, why we were mad. I am usually a pretty happy person. But whenever I was around her I was always brought down to her level. I finally had to stop talking to her as much, and then I realized after 12 years of being friends I was the only one who was putting effort into our friendship. I was sick of it So I stopped putting out the effort to talk to her. we still say stuff to each other on fb occasionally but we definitely aren't best friends anymore. Sometimes it is such a challenge to just love them anyways. When you know that they can't do the same. But that is why we are supposed to become like Christ. People persecuted him, threw things at him, crucified him, but he told Heavenly Father to forgive them. Christ loved them anyways. I loved this post! I love all your posts. They really get me thinking, and make me want to be better!

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  2. I love this. What an uplifting message.

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  3. It can be so hard. I have a friend like this, and even though some days it was draining, I found that I needed to love her anyway, and even though she was making decisions I didn't approve of, I wanted her to know that I loved her unconditionally. No I didn't need to follow her every move, but I could give her the support she would eventually need.

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  4. I had a similar situation with a friend. She made some choices that I didn't agree with, and we had a falling out and didn't talk for over a year. In that time, we both got married and she had a baby. Then one day I saw her at an event, and I just really wanted to be friends again. It was hard to say "hey, I am sorry, I shouldn't have judged you like I did." Luckily, she accepted my apology and we are best friends again. It is hard to watch someone you care for go against your core beliefs, but that's what friends are for. I now have the same "love them anyway" attitude. It really is a great way to live. I have found life much more fulfilling now that I try to see the best in people and always try to be a positive example.

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  5. Even if your friend doesn't realize it right now through her negativity, she is blessed to have you as a friend!! I think we've all been there and had a friend like this. You can either choose to let her bring you down, leave her, or fight hard to bring positivity and happiness through her weak moments. Sounds like you chose the latter and shows what an awesome person you are!

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