Recently, I wrote a post about how I felt like a couple of my friendships were one sided & how I am so exhausted from trying so hard. I made a pact with myself (and Trevor encouraged me, too) to completely withdraw. Not to stop caring completely, because I will always care about certain people I love, however, how he challenged me to not put so much effort into someone that isn't put as much effort back. For example: instead of texting a certain someone DAILY to see how they are, just don't. If they text you, great! If not, then there you go. There's your answer. So guess what? NONE of these particular friends have texted me. It's been kind of crazy, but I've had this attitude of, "I'm just being chill and I don't care anymore because my husband is my world." It has been so nice. It's been nice not having to go home and cry over someone who just doesn't care about me anymore. It's been nice to focus MORE on my relationship with my family and my husband. It's been so rewarding to me! Do I have friends and people I care about still? Well, duh. Though I've had to be the kind of friend I don't want to be sometimes, it's so refreshing to take a step back, breathe, and let time show you what is meant to happen. I have learned to love myself again, I've learned to spend more time and effort into my marriage. Ah. Life is just wonderful right now. And I never thought I'd have to withdraw myself from people I love to feel like this. But I'm loving it. A lot.
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