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I always have a lot to say about insecurity. I tend to believe I have a pretty hefty past with insecurity. I'm also pretty happy to say that I've overcome the struggle with insecurity by tenfolds. At this place I volunteer at, I have noticed a couple of girls who are constantly talking about other people. I am only a few feet away, and they talk loud, so obviously, it is sort of hard to NOT hear them. The conversation's are always harsh and rude. A couple of times, I have wanted to say something. Most of the time, I solely want to say, "Stop judging." Last week was the last straw. I grabbed my notebook and began to write.

Girl 1: Who is he dating?
Girl 2: This girl who has no sense of style. I haven't met her or anything, but he is already way too good for her, personality AND looks.I don't know why he's so desperate.

I was completely blown away. And people. I am not even exaggerating here. This is how the conversation went.I know all girls gossip. It's human nature. I do feel uncomfortable when I gossip, but I still admit to doing it. Gossiping this way? Judging this poor girl when you haven't even met her? Nonsense! It continues....

Girl 1: There was a baby on the plane flying back from our honeymoon and she was crying like half of the time. My husband told me I should just feel sorry for the mom, but I'm like shut up. I wanted to kick that baby.

Okay, Okay. Girl 1. My vote is that you have a baby and see what its like to care for him/her on the airplane. Usually, I try to succeed in confrontation. But in places where I'm constantly striving to be on my best behavior and refrain from any created tension, it's just uncomfortable.


In my personal opinion, and from my own personal experiences, I feel like all of this stems from insecurity. If an individual isn't happy with themselves, they gossip. They bash on people. They judge. Why? Because they need something to say in order to make themselves feel better. That is the only thing that makes sense. Truly, I don't believe it always stems from an evil heart. I just HATE that women can't love each other and accept everyone the way they are. Why jump to conclusions? Why expect the worst out of everybody? THIS is why girls get a bad rap. So. I don't know how many people read my blog. In fact, I have no idea. But if you are reading this, I want to challenge you to stop gossiping. Period. Strive to see the best in people, even if you know the bad.


It is time that women change. It's time that they get their insecurity levels to an all-time low. How? Serve others. Do things for other people. Quit worrying about yourself. And think the best of everyone, regardless of what they may have done. Please! Take my challenge with me. I'm doing it too. In fact, it's not just a monthly challenge. It's a lifetime one. 21 days makes a habit. So start today. 

6 comments

  1. Amanda, your blog seriously amazes me every single day! I love reading it :)

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  2. This post.....this is why I love you!!

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  3. this is this old soul song called rumours by timex social club it would fit well with this post.

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  4. i lied. obviously we all have times of weakness, but when i made a better effort to stop the gossip, life got so much simpler. God blessed me way more. People liked me & respected me way more. It's a win-win. God really knows what He's talking about... :)

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  5. I love this! It is sad what people say about each other! This is definitely something I will remember and work on! Thanks!

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