10 September 2014

The Lake & Friends

I can't get over how behind I am with my posts. I'm not even sure if I consider myself a "blogger" anymore. When people ask what we did this summer, we're constantly responding with "the lake." My parents recently finished their lake house and it is way too much of a dream. We invited some friends (Sam & Danny) to come up to Bear Lake and spend the day kayaking and spending time on the beach. 

Funny side note story! I met Sam through the blogging world. She has quickly turned into one of my best friends. It's so interesting how that works. There aren't many people who understand my sense of humor, my random bathroom snapchats, and my sudden breakdowns. She is seriously the best and I am so blessed to call her and her adorable family my favorites. Oh, they also have a son named Evan. He is Mr. Schroeder's new best friend. They spent a little bit of time putting dirt into dump trucks and pouring it back out. 

If you know Trevor, you know that he is pretty talented as far as balance goes. I like to think it's because his feet are completely flat, and they automatically just suction to the board. While we were out on the beach, he was convinced he could perfect 'paddle yoga.' I happened to get some pretty awesome pictures, even a "fail." We were laughing pretty hard.

09 September 2014

House Work

Nobody really warned me how much work it is to have a house! ESPECIALLY when the landscaping isn't finished. Mr. Schroeder and I are loving getting all settled. The yard is a work in progress. A little bit ago, we had some family come and help us rake top soil in our front yard. Have I told you guys how much I love my family? I mean, my in-laws too ... they are even great. I feel sorry for those who have weirdo in-laws, because I am beyond blessed! My two little nephews came outside and raked the dirt. It was the sweetest thing I've ever seen! 

We concluded the weekend by going to the zoo. Why haven't I gone to the zoo in years? And why did I think it was only for kids? No... It was so much fun! I could probably watch the monkey's for weeks. Or years, probably.

08 September 2014

Why does God allow bad things to happen?

It's been awhile since I have done a Mormon Monday! I have a few questions in my inbox I am planning on answering, one by one. This week, the question is from a reader who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Q: I am not a very religious person but when I see religious people like you who are so happy, I wonder what you think about this. Why does God allow bad things to happen to good people? There is so much evil in the world. Why doesn't he intervene? 

A: I had a difficult time understanding this as I was growing up. There was a time in my life where I truly said, out loud, that I hated God for Him taking away certain people in my life away from me. I didn't understand the plan then, I don't fully understand it now, but I have a much better understanding. Firstly, might I talk about why God allows temptation & sin.

The Book of Mormon teaches (2 Nephi 2:16) that "God gave unto man that he should act for himself. Wherefore, man could not act for himself save it should be that he was enticed by the one or the other." We believe that at the final judgment, God wants people with a cart full of righteous selections, even though sin was right there in front of them to choose. I like to look at it like this. If there was someone plotting to murder another person, God isn't going to step in. Correct? Because we have our free agency. If God stepped in every evil situation, there would be no point on this Earth. God does not take away free agency. As Elder Busche put it, "In your life, there have to be challenges. They will either bring you closer to God and therefore make you stronger, or they can destroy you. But you make the decision of which road you take."

But what about God allowing bad things to happen to good people? Unfortunately, God's plan is not a plan of ease and comfort; it is a plan of salvation. In order for God to get us from where we are to where He wants us to be, we each must be stretched and given opportunities to grow. And, as we all know, growth often entails some discomfort and pain. If we are to develop Godlike attributes like forgiveness, then God must allow us to occasionally be hurt by others. If we are to learn humility, then some disappointment is necessary. 

Do YOU have a question about the LDS church? Feel free to email me at wenserendipity@gmail.com and your question could be featured on future Mormon Monday posts!

05 September 2014

The underdog

If I remember right, I believe I've shared this video on my blog before. When something speaks to be so strongly, I have to share it. Over and over. There are times when the video can mean something completely different to me than it did six months ago. For some strange reason, this video resurfaced itself into my life, and gave me some more hope right when I was about to become hopeless. **Update: For some strange reason, this video has stopped working. So if you want to watch it, click here.

In junior high, in 7th and 8th grade, I was bullied pretty roughly. It was always on the school bus and always from 3 boys. Just 3 boys. I would come home, cry, sit in the bathtub and soak my swollen shins that were kicked. I constantly wondered why I was even going through this. I was a good girl and a very good person - why I was I being put through this? I wasn't necessarily depressed. But I was bullied to the point where I hated myself. It took YEARS to rebuild that love that I needed for myself. High school was great, and so was college. With some bumps along the way, I found myself, and I loved myself. Then, I found a worthy amazing man that loved me even more than I loved myself. And I soon realized that loving yourself makes all the difference. 

Senior year of high school, my aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends were asking me what college I was going to attend. After explaining that I would be studying social work, here are the responses I got.

*"You do realize that you're not going to get paid anything, right? Why would you do that?"
*"We all know that you are only going to college to get married. Then you'll drop out." 
*"Nobody in your family has graduated. You really think you're going to be the one?" 

My feelings were all over the place. My parents and siblings, thank goodness, were always supportive. Though I have changed my major multiple times, I still ended up with a career that would allow me to, "Not make very much money." But wouldn't you rather do something you love and not make a ton of money instead of waking up every morning dreading work? Two years into my education, I got married. I took another two year break. I even had a few "I told you so's." I have gone back to school, and though it is hard, it makes me press forward and work even harder when I have people that don't support me. This video made me feel like they really are wrong. I am going to prove them wrong. More importantly, I am going to do this for me. It may take me years and years, but who cares? Accomplishment is accomplishment & I will never put timeline on a college degree. This quote in the video struck me. Hard.

Certain people in my life may not believe in me. The weak may tempt me to give up occasionally. But the bullies are wrong. And the minute you tell yourself that and convince yourself of it, you will succeed.