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serve your spouse, dang it!

i have mentioned several times that service to your spouse is crucial in a happy & positive marriage. i was thinking about what i could do for my husband the other day & this list came to mind. i have done some of these and/or plan to do them in the future. i think the little things and the small acts of service truly mean the most. you don't have to go buy your husband a new car with your whole life savings to show him you love him. but instead, you should pick something every day, and do something nice for him. it's the least you could do.



• make his favorite dinner with candles & dim the lights. make it romantic, baby!
• buy him new tools for work.
• buy him seat covers for his car or truck.
• come home with his favorite dessert from his favorite restaurant.
• write him love letters. twice a month. at least.
• clean out his car or truck for him.
• if you ever have work off, go to his work & help him.
• if you're ever away for work, or vice versa, send pizza to his room with a love note.
• bring him lunch and a cute love note to his work.
• surprise him with a planned vacay.
• thank him for everything he does for you.
• ask HIM on a date & plan something fun to do together.
• put sticky notes of things you love about him all over {inside} his vehicle. 
• call unexpectedly just to tell him you love him.
• treat him to a back or foot rub 
• write cute notes or draw funny faces on the eggs for him to find
• tell him how much you appreciate him & his hard work.
 • make a lunch for him so it's ready when he goes to work.
• pray with him every morning. if you have to, remind him to do it with you.
• dress up in a nice outfit (or sexy, if you prefer :) ) and greet him when he gets home!
• have a day of compliments. compliment him on more than one thing.
• send him flirty texts.
• iron his clothes.
• take him on a picnic. if it's too cold, have it in your family room! 

i suppose a lot of people can't do some of these things due to kids or other situations. but you can always find ways to serve your spouse. no matter what situation you are in. sooo what small acts of kindness do you do for your husband (or wife)? 


38 comments

  1. Well I can't do about half of these because of the nature of Daniels job AND because we have a baby. BUT there are a lot that I already do :)

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  2. Amen, Amen!

    My husband makes my lunch for me everyday...he's a sweetheart.
    I plan dinners and make most of them and tidy up and do house cleaning while he's at work on Saturdays so we can enjoy our Sundays together.

    The things we do for each other make a world a difference and give us more time to just hang out with each other! :)

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  3. Great list. When I serve my husband I feel sooo much more love for him. Thanks for more ideas on how to serve.

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  4. I like that "his favorite" is bold. This is definitely something that I need to do. My mom likes to make Joe's favorite foods when we come over for dinner on Sundays because she knows there is no way I'm ever going to make him a good meat and potato dinner or beef stroganoff because those two meals make me turn up my nose.
    I think I'm going to make myself a list of things to do for my husband this summer when I'll have oodles of free time (which I inevitably won't have) because this is awesome!
    Love ya girl!! I CAN'T WAIT to be come real life friends and hang out!!!

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  5. One thing I do is maybe offer to do chores he really doesn't enjoy doing like scrubbing the toilets or helping w his laundry. Also perhaps letting him choose the tv show or movie, even if I don't like it :)

    I recently did the compliment thing only I wrote them on balloons and filled our bedroom with all the balloons, he loved it! Now it was tricky driving home wit a car filled with an insane amount of balloons, but that's a another story! ;-)

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  6. You make me want to be a better wife! :) THANKS!!

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  7. I will have to remember this when I get married. Thanks for the advice!

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  8. I love this! One day I came home and my hubby had covered the ceiling in millions of the glow in the dark stars. And he left a note that said I may not be able to give you everything in the world but I can give you the stars. Made me cry like a baby and it made my whole life. Husbands are the best invention ever. How did I survive on my own for so long?

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  9. I'm not even married and I love this. Little things are always so important. It's what keeps that spark alive.

    xo. m.

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  10. I like to leave an occasional love note in his lunch. ;) Or when he travels, I like to sneak something in his suitcase so he'll have a surprise when he gets there. I've surprised him with a date to the same places we went on our first date and it was fun to talk about that first one.

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  11. I just found your blog and think this post is so fun! Thanks so much! I am always looking for fun things to do for my hubby. XO

    {alaciahoodwinked.blogspot.com}

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  12. I just found your blog and think it is so cute! What a fun post- I am always looking for new fun things to do for my hubby. Thanks! XO

    {alaciahoodwinked.blogspot.com}

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  13. Super cute!!! These are great ideas.

    love, shearly perfect
    *www.shearlyperfect.blogspot.com*

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  14. I love this! I love to leave my husband love notes with dry erase marker on the bathroom mirror. This is such a good list.

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  15. Ive done some of these things for my fiance and I plan lots of surprise romantic nights. My fiance works two jobs and I dont work so I do all the housework and have dinner ready when he gets home when hes off at 7 at night. He takes good care of me and I'm so grateful to him. He works so hard I try to make his home life nice and easy and calm.

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  16. Ive done some of these things for my fiance and I plan lots of surprise romantic nights. My fiance works two jobs and I dont work so I do all the housework and have dinner ready when he gets home when hes off at 7 at night. He takes good care of me and I'm so grateful to him. He works so hard I try to make his home life nice and easy and calm.

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  17. Love this list! Also, you could add: make him a special Pinterest board with all of the things that are 'him'!

    I love him so much, and would do anything for him!

    We do these things for each other all the time. :D

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  18. We do these for each other all the time! Another thing to do, if you have a Pinterest account, is to make a board for all things 'him'! Things he likes and/or things you see he would like. :) Just another special little something. ;)

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  19. Even as simple as an email! How nice to open the email and it's not just ads and jokes.
    Great reminder!Thanks

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  20. I made my husband a sports office with his trophies and pictures of him teaching tennis. I made this for his birthday as a surprise. And becasue we have children I send him to Miami or Vegas for a couple of days so he can chill:)

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  21. I made my husband a sports office with his trophies and pictures of him teaching tennis. I made this for his birthday as a surprise. And becasue we have children I send him to Miami or Vegas for a couple of days so he can chill:)

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  22. I once wrote short love notes telling him things I like about him and put one in the pocket of all of his work pants. He kept finding them for weeks :) Need to do some nice things again, it's been awhile....

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  23. I once wrote short love notes telling him things I like about him and put one in the pocket of all of his work pants. He kept finding them for weeks :) Need to do some nice things again, it's been awhile....

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  24. 1. Don't touch his car. Ever.
    2. Don't "serve" your husband, you are not a slave. Appreciate him, thank him, love him, surprise him... don't "serve" him.

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    1. 1. His car is my car. And my car is his car. When we got married, we made covenants and promises that make us ONE. We are two different people, yes. But we share finances, cars, everything. Because we are one. & I actually think that's something beautiful about our marriage.

      2. I will serve him. I am LDS. Here are two scriptures I follow and encourage others to do as well simply because it is what Christ did when He was on earth.

      By love serve one another:Gal. 5:13;
      Ye will teach your children to love and serve one another:Mosiah 4:15;

      I understand you may not believe in the Bible, but I do. And you should respect that.

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    2. Being a servant and a slave are two very different things. She is discussing serving out of love, from your heart, not because you have to, but because you should and want to. There's nothing slave about love notes or date nights. Amanda, you're spot on!

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    3. Being a servant and a slave are two very different things. She is discussing serving out of love, from your heart, not because you have to, but because you should and want to. There's nothing slave about love notes or date nights. Amanda, you're spot on!

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    4. People who don't serve their spouses don't keep their spouses for long. My husband and I serve each other (and our children) every single day, it's a very important part of how we show our love. I feel absolutely saddened for people who don't find themselves serving their families and friends regularly, what a selfish, awful, sad existence that would be.

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  25. My husband is truly spoiled. I serve him in every way possible with the simple things but I do need to try and be more romantic. Sometimes I get my red lipstick out and add a love note on a paper towel with my lip prints on it and put it in his lunch pale.

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  26. When I pack my husbands lunch for work sometimes I get my red lipstick out and make a love note and add my lip prints to it. I do serve him in so many ways..I would say he is spoiled. I could be a little more romantic but it's hard with my two small kids.

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  27. So grateful I came upon this. We've both been under a lot of stress lately as we just opened up an office for our business. I'm also pregnant with child #2 and child #1 is going through the terrible twos. While some of these aren't possible at this point in our lives, there is a lot that we could be doing better for each other. :) Thanks for the great reminder!

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  28. I turn down the bed at night then place a small chocolate
    on his pillow. Just like the hotels

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  30. Would soooo love to find a similar list for the stay at home DAD/Husband. I work, and often travel, and he stays home and raises our 4 year old. I want to do more to show him I recognize and appreciate his sacrifices.

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  31. I do not believe at all that you should "serve" your husband. You can do things that make him happy but "serve"....that is demeaning.

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    1. Service is not demeaning, service is noble and serving your family and friends is empowering and life affirming.

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  32. I love leaving my husband surprise love notes. I bought him a bottle of Mountain Dew & hung a cute note that I scrap booked saying "thank you for all the thing you DEW for me". He loved it!

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