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a happy relationship

obviously, 
we are still learning.
 BUT as of right now..
i really feel like i may have figured this
marriage thing out.

i was talking with one of my best friends today.
and we were laughing because...

a lot of people fib about married life.
talking of rainbows and unicorns 
and constant time spent together.

well, i don't know about you.
but my husband works. really hard.
and we don't get to see each other often.

when you are dating,
it is all fun and play. 
there really isn't much to worry about.
marriage is a whole other story. 
married life is wonderful. 
but what so many people don't emphasize 
it is work.
it just is.

i wanted to share with you guys
my opinion 
of the best marital advice i have received.


1. be selfless.
this is the *golden rule.*
and surprisingly,
it's a lot harder than i would have realized.
once you are married,
you are a two man game.
whether you are talking of plans or money,
it is crucial to include your spouse in all things.
i am the first to admit that it is much 
easier said than done.
it is still really hard for me to accept that 
christmas is at the in-laws this year.

2. weekly date nights.
another crucial thing.
life can get so busy you don't even have time
to see each other anymore.
if you make it a priority 
to have date night every week,
your relationship is a lot more likely to succeed.
you don't have to go BUY something,
go to make-out point, 
go take a walk,
go fly a kite,
bike ride, 
just something!
over these past few months,
i have grown extremely grateful for date night.

3. serve them.
this seems to go hand-in-hand with selflessness.
fix your husbands favorite meal.
do what he wants to do.
clean up his random messes.
serve them diligently and faithfully.
service never fails.

4. admit you're wrong.
even when you're not.
grudges are never useful, fun, or worth it.
just get over it and love each other.

5. never never never go to bed angry.
but if you do..go to bed naked.
mr. schroeder and i have mastered this one. muahaha!
it is definitely the key advice point my mother gives to engaged couples.
nobody wants to go to bed angry
because the next day..there's nothing you care to wake up to!

6. say i love you {at least} three times a day.
don't just say it.
show them, too.

7. look at the positive.
everyone has faults, flaws, and mistakes they make.
everyone.
focus on their positive traits.
it is pretty degrading to constantly be critical of
every single thing your partner does wrong.

8. be supportive.
i always thought this one would come easy to me.
but i really don't know if i would be okay 
moving to certain states for my husband's job.
but recently,
i have learned to accept it.
i have also learned that 
"home is where the husband is." 

9. always always kiss each other 
good morning, good night, and goodbye.
it just makes your world happier. 

10. laugh.
it is so important.
you have to laugh.
at everything.



What has been your favorite most important 
relationship advice you have received? 



21 comments

  1. Great post! I loved it even though I am not married or not in a relationship I enjoyed reading this. Great advice!

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  2. Love this! Haha, we got the naked advice when we were engaged too. So funny. :)

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  3. I love this post! We are about to have our 5th anniversary soon...that is not including our years together since we are high school sweethearts. Let me tell you...marriage is work...but just like "work" you have to LOVE what you do. And when both sides are on the same page to work on the marriage together, love grows even more. We are not perfect by any means, we definitely try to keep our arguments to ourselves and work hard at it. And according to John Gottman: demonstrations of love and positivity must outnumber the negative 5 to 1.

    Love your posts hon!!!
    Andie
    Andie's Traveling Pants

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  4. This is awesome! Definitely all good advice, I can begin practicing these on my boyfriend, maybe that'll make him wanna get married sooner? :) Haha. Really though, love this post! And thanks for all your sweet comments on my blog! The best part about Haiti is coming soon... the kiddos!

    xoxo Vanessa @ He Says Newcastle
    vanessawittmer.blogspot.com

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  5. what a GREAT post full of wonderful little marriage tips. i totally agree with each one & esp like the one about if you do go to bed angry, at least go to bed naked. haha!

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    Miyan
    fly far blog giveaway

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  6. Love these! I'm not married or planning to be any time soon, but all the tips on this list are fantastic. Especially number 5 ;)

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  7. what a great post! i'm not married yet but i've always heard of your #5 !! i am all about being selfless and communication.. now just gotta go find me a sugar daddy lol

    xoxo

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  8. I love every single one of these! My hubby and I are coming up on one year next month, and it is definitely WORK! But at the same time, it's the best thing I've ever done. Learning to compromise and be selfless is definitely a challenge...but we're getting there! And I love #5 hahaha! We are not the best at not going to bed angry...I'm thinking the other option might help us out haha!

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  9. What a inspirational post ! Reading this is a pure pleasure :)
    Have a wonderful day
    xoxo
    Pauline-Marie
    http://iftheworldwouldend.blogspot.com/

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  10. I love love LOVE your goofy picture!! #5 might be my new favorite rule... I will keep that in mind if/when I meet a guy worth falling asleep with :)

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  11. Im so grateful for having found your blog! You are absolutely adorable and this blog is amazing. I've been married for 1 year and 2 months and it is so amazing! I love being a married woman and enjoy every moment of it. I think the most important piece of advice I've gotten is to always be true to one and other and also to always stick to your husband and support his decisions :)

    Following you :)

    HippieChicPao

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  12. How amazingly sweet! I love the sweet notes, and especially the one about going to bed angry ;) Thanks for being one of my newest followers, and now you know that I am one of yours =)

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  13. This is wonderful and so true! I've been so blessed so far to have a very easy marriage. I think we do all these things so well and we compliment each other so well. Spending time together and laughing together are two very important things for sure! I also totally agree on kissing good morning, good night and good bye. It's a rule in our house. Ha.

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  14. Oh gosh, I love this! All so true!! If you go to bed angry, go naked! Too funny!!

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  15. i love your advice. :) number 5 made me laugh and number 10 is my favorite. :)

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  16. Love this advice. I am a newlywed and all of these are wonderful! I think laughing is so important but also it's very important to choose your happiness. Each day you decide how much you want to do give to yourself, your other half and your relationship. New folllower :)

    http://sincerelyarizona.blogspot.com/

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  17. I just adore everything about you.

    So grateful you are in my life and are such a good example to me.

    <3

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  18. That sounds like great advice. The best advice I've read about relationships in general is three little words: please and thank you. Please pick up XYZ at the store sounds and feels much better and less demanding than hey go pick up XYZ at the store. And it works in ALL relationships work and personal. I definitely leave work in a better mood when my boss thanks me for working my shift.

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  20. What a great post. Fantastic advice!

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  21. So I decided to stop by and take a peek after you commented yesterday. Love your blog and you definitely have a lot of good stuff to say!

    Completely off the topic of this post: do you do your on web design/buttons? And if so, where did you learn to do so?

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