battle wounds & the bigger picture

at times, my problems seem bigger than the universe.
how they creep up on me when i least expect them,
& how nobody around me has been through the same dealings.

last night,
after leaving my parent's house,
i looked over at mr. schroeder,
and just fed him a good solid four pages of my feelings.
(those would be handwritten AND single spaced).
he listens. & he nods his head in agreement.
i was so completely annoyed that i couldn't just bottle it up inside.
i felt like i was drowning in my own self pity. 
i wasn't myself.  & i was sick of being someone i wasn't.
i had let some of the recent problems in my life define me.
it was sort of like this:
if i am wearing floral pants, and my cousin joey doesn't like floral pants,
i always watch what i wear around him because i don't want to be put down again.
i gotta quit it right now.

last night, mr. schroeder said,
"i feel like it's not you. it's not you that has the problem. it's them.
i mean, not that you are perfect. but if people are constantly scoping you out,
trying to find flaws in you, and calling you out on every little thing,
then it's them. it's not you at all. so don't change who you are."
i love that man. he can say the most simple things
yet allow me to think,
"oh wow. that was a neat lil' paragraph you just stated." 
don't let your problems become your main focus, people.




  1. you seem to have the best husband ever.
    and i agree with him completely. people try to tear other people down when their own lives tend to be filled with problems. don't let it bother you too much. just brush it off and know that you're beautiful! inside and out. and your husband thinks so too. with him and God, who else's opinion do you really need? (:

  2. What a wise husband you have. Lucky lady! He is so right.
    I tend to do the same thing you do. If I sense that someone dislikes something about me, I worry about that one thing whenever I'm around them. And it makes me so crazy! Seems like I should take a little advice from your hubby too, huh?

  3. Love this post. I let people get to me too. It's hard not too. Just know I think you are pretty, funny and dang awesome!!!!
    Happy weekend!!!

  4. love this girl. i know exactly what you mean.
    good thing you have a fantastic husband to remind you.
    you are awesome.

    have a great new years weekend time or whatever this holiday is thats coming up haha!


  5. Who made everyone else the queen/king of what does and doesn't look good? Who cares about everyone else's approval? That's what I have to keep tellin myself. It's not all bad to have the desire to please other people, but man oh man can it drive you CRAY CRAY sometimes! Thanks for keeping it real! I know everyone has struggled with this a time or a million and two!

    Sue // Chevron & Lace

  6. Great post. I love that husbands are always able to listen and say the right exact thing when we can't seem to see the truth. We all need to believe in ourself a little more and not let others put a grade on us.

  7. Very wise words from your husband there.

  8. Lovely...don't be anyone else but yourself. Everyone else is already taken!
    Don't let others pull you down, because in reality, they are not sure of themselves either. I love how Mr. Schroeder listens and keeps reassuring you. You are awesome! Don't forget it!


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