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just put it down



I wrote a post last month about putting your cell phone down. Yet, I don't think I got to write everything I wanted to say. A few months ago, Mr. Schroeder and I went out on a date to eat some wings.  To the right of us, there was a family with 4 kids. The youngest was young enough to not have a cell phone, but each of them, were on their phones. Mom looked as if she was facebooking. Dad looked like he was responding to emails. The other three kids? Probably texting their friends or surfing the web or something. The little one? Just sitting there. In silence. Waiting for the food. I didn't think too much  of it until I looked over 5 minutes later, and it was as if they were frozen, still on their phones, with the younger one just sitting there. Throughout their whole meal, they were on their phones and eating at the same time. None of them said a word to each other the whole time. Trevor and I talked about it for a few minutes while repeating the phrase "how sad.." I don't get why people don't get the hint that being on your phone when you should be bonding with your family is absolutely heartbreaking. And it will tear your family down! I sort of hate seeing people on their phones during completely inappropriate times. Then, on Sunday, Trevor and I went downtown for a Christmas devotional. We got on TRAX and this couple got on the stop after us. Throughout the whole train ride, which was about 34 minutes, this couple didn't say a word to each other. They were on their phones the entire time. I had to document [[while blurring their faces of course, to protect their privacy]]. But I did take my phone out, take a picture, and put it back in my purse.


How long is it going to be before marriages are destroyed because of the time spent on your cell phone? Because I can guarantee that it has happened and will happen a heck of a lot more. I know a few of my friends who say their husbands get home from work, get on their cell phone, play games, catch up on social media, watch videos, whatever, and then go straight to bed. There's no bonding anymore. Not to mention the complete lack of communication. So many people are fighting through text, through social media, and don't even know how to pick up the phone and call the person to confront them anymore. People are so attached  to their phones that it makes me absolutely sick. There are definitely times in my life when I'm aware that I just need to set my phone down. So join me! Put down your phone. Look at your absolutely beautiful surroundings. Because once you do, you'll realize that there's a lot more to listen to, and to pay more attention to. 

12 comments

  1. Thank you for posting this! My husband and I haven't gotten smart phones yet... But that is one of our biggest fears when we do get them. They are so convenient and addicting! This is such a good reminder!

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  2. Loving your blog design!! Great post and so true. We see this so often when we are out to eat.

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  3. I love this! I tried to put my phone down most of the time while we were on our Christmas light date last night. One thing I've done is turn off my mobile notifications. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. I don't get the notification when someone comments or likes or any of that anymore. It is so much more productive. Before I always had to look and see what the notification was. Now I know if I get a notification it's a text or an e-mail. And then I can check on my notifications when I get the chance or have some down time or have nothing going on. Sometimes I go whole days without checking my phone because I have so much going on and am not distracted by the constant dinging.

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  4. love, love, love this! i hope you don't mind me sharing this! :)

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  5. Amen to that!! My husband and I rarely spend time on our phones when we are together. Because of our work schedules, we don't see each other much during the week. So when we DO have time together, the phones are put away. Sometimes I will go all weekend before I remember to check it. Haha.

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  6. Phones can be so distracting, I agree. What kills me is when you get together with a group of friends and people are checking Instagram or Facebook while talking to you and others. It's awful!

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  7. I absolutely love this!! This is so true. I have to say that my husband and I are major culprits of this. We both have a hard time during church to pay attention and not be on our phones but we are doing much better. Even my husband who has the hardest time getting through the first 10 minutes of Sacrament meeting made it all through Sacrament and Sunday School without playing games or looking up social media stuff. Even when we are dates I have to make a conscious effort to focus on each other and not being on our phones the whole time. It is so sad the world we live in that we can't just enjoy each other's company without electronic devices. Thanks for posting this!!

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  8. I completely agree with this! Last night, I thought of your post and I put my phone down, and spent the evening watching a show on Netflix with my husband. We even went and got dinner, and I also put my computer away. It was so wonderful, and then we went straight to bed. When I woke up, I found my phone only at 20%... I forgot to charge it! But that's okay, I'm glad I was busy spending time with my husband, and I would survive my phone being that dead.

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  9. This reminds me of Wall-E where everyone is constantly looking at the screens in front of them. I'm trying really hard lately to be thoughtful of when I do use my phone and leave it on my purse most of the day.

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  10. we always notice that when we go out. smart phones are so great for so many things. but i almost wish they were never invented.

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  11. You nailed it on the head! It is SO SAD to be so attached. I did read a brief article that stated that social media use is expected to fall next year due to people wanting to "live in the moment". I sure hope it's right!

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  12. I told Mr. Brown, that if it's ever date night no phones are aloud to come out of our pocket or purse! It was hard at first, even for me. But it's the best thing ever. We talk a lot more and even after almost two years of marriage, I am still learning things about him I never knew! It has made us grow closer! I am glad you made a post about this and even another one lol! Glad to know that other people can live without their cellular device for a couple of hours too!

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