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Differences

When Mr. Schroeder and I first met, I thought we were on the same page with every single thing. We like the same things, we come from a family who shares the love of the gospel, we both love to laugh and act silly. I was constantly thinking, "What in the crap are our differences? Do we even have any?"  Once we got married, I began to see the little flaws in Mr. Schroeder. I always wondered why I didn't see them before marriage. WEll, that's because I was so smitten that I wasn't even looking for them. If I heard anything negative Mr. Schroeder would do, my mind would completely and immediately turn it away & not agree. At first, it was easy to spot the flaws, the differences, and the mistakes. Now, I've learned to embrace the differences and look for more of the GOOD in Mr. Schroeder.  When I think of our differences, I do giggle a little. The main reason is simply because these differences are pretty pathetic! They don't really take a toll on our marriage and aren't negative things. I suppose I just get a kick out of them.

• I am a night person. 
Mr. Schroeder is a morning person. 
I would MUCH rather stay up super late and sleep in, while Mr. Schroeder would rather wake up early and get more done throughout the day. We could call him more productive, I suppose. I enjoyed parties a lot when I was single, so after marrying him, I have learned that 10pm or earlier is bedtime. Crazy crazy, I know.  

• Sugar makes me happy. 
Sleep makes Trev happy. 

• I care too much. 
He cares too little. 
But it's a GOOD THING. I wrote about it once, here. I care too much about things I shouldn't care about, i.e., friends who don't care about me, rude people, things not happening the way you want them too, etc. Trev cares about important things. When they're not important, you can expect him to shrug his shoulders and say, "oh well." I like it. I like it a lot. 

• Dishwashing. 
When we first got married, I was used to putting plates in the dishwasher. I was taught that if there's a little piece of food stuck on the plate, or if there's some spaghetti sauce on there or something, just stick it in the dishwasher, because the dishwasher will take care of it. When we first got hitched, Trev saw me doing this and said, "What the crap are you doing?" He then gave me a pep talk that my parents just had a really  nice dishwasher that would clean dishes really good, but that our apartment's dishwasher required basically cleaning the plate before putting it in the dishwasher. I mean, "What's the point of even having a dishwasher if you have to wash the plate before putting it in?" Whatever.

•Traditions & Stockings
Growing up, Trev didn't have stockings. So during our first Christmas, my stocking was completely empty & I was really confused. This year, Trev put all the gifts in my stocking like 2 weeks before Christmas. That kid...clueless, but so cute for trying so hard. 

I realize that a lot of these are silly differences we were taught growing up. Each family raises their kids different. I've really enjoyed getting to know my hub better, especially about the laughy kinds. I really really love Mr. Schroeder and our relationship and I'm honestly proud to say that differences don't stand in the way of our amazing relationship, they only make it better.


11 comments

  1. OOOH isn't it all just too funny. I thought tyler and I were the same person too - just boy and girl. but as time goes on I realize that's not the case. but then I realize that I"M GLAD he's not the same because he has strengths that make up for my weaknesses. haha the dishwasher though.. that made me laugh. sounds just like me!

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  2. haha I love this. the sugar and sleep this is spot on with us. I love that you say differences make it better. Totally agree with that. I think eventually you grow on each other:) xoxo

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  3. Isn't it funny how when you are dating and engaged you think you are the same. Then when you get married you realize you have differences. It's like a light switch is turned on. Luckily, they are tiny differences like the ones you mentioned. One of our weird differences is which way to put a fork or knife in the dishwasher...up or down. I say down, Doug says up. These differences make life fun and not so predictable.

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    1. Ash, the forks and knives go down, always down!! Tell my cousin he is crazy for thinking otherwise! :) (although, I'm the only one in my family who thinks they should go down...maybe we're crazy!)

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  4. hahaha i laughed so hard at the stocking part. that is super funny. this makes me want to do one of these!

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  5. Dishwashing, yes... that's a huge difference for us. Just cleaning in general actually! Love this post :)

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  6. Hahaha! Jeff had to give me the EXACT same dishwashing talk. Love this! Why do we not live near each other???

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  7. So true! Our first Christmas was Tims first time doing stockings and he shoved a sweater in mine....just a sweater. 2 years later he loves shopping for stocking stuffers!

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  8. It is totally crazy the things you learn after marriage, and how there are little things you had no idea. It is so good to be different. My husband and I are the same, in the way that I am a super worrier, and he's usually like MEH. He does stress sometimes but definitely not as much as me.

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  9. Yes! Wow. SO true. I love this idea. Maybe I will copy you and Kelsey who posted about this :) haha

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  10. I think the "care too little" seems to be a guy trait and a "care too much" is a girl thing. And you're right----it's a REALLY good balance to have...

    We're the same way on washing dishes :)

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